I continue to wonder what would happen if we had trained, respectful mediators handling problems in our New York City school district.
The
bitter divide described below at PS 193 will leave people on all sides angry and frustrated no matter what the resolution is, and that is a sad testament to adults not wanting to listen to each other. The Department of Education is unable to handle protests, and will not settle differences before it is too late.
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| Principal Flynn, left |
Betsy Combier
betsy.combier@gmail.comEditor, NYC Rubber Room ReporterEditor, Parentadvocates.orgEditor, New York Court CorruptionEditor, National Public Voice
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| Parents at PS 193 Gil Hodges Elementary School protest against Principal Tami Flynn. Others support her. |
A School Divided: PS
193’s Dangerous War
What happens when members
of a school community give in to mistrust?
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| Vinny Nemorin, the Parents’ Association treasurer, was arrested for demanding his 7-year-old son not be denied using the bathroom |
The town hall meeting on March 1
at PS 193/Gil Hodges elementary school in Brooklyn was marred by conflict all
night. The battle lines were drawn between those who support the school’sprincipal, Tami Flynn, and those who are fighting for her removal. And it
showed how quickly conflicts can escalate when a school community can’t resolve
its differences.
Early on,
a pro-Flynn faculty member yelled at an anti-Flynn parent for filming the
meeting, threatening police intervention if the video wasn’t erased. Later,
Jennifer Brown, co-president of the PS 193 Parents Association— the group that
had called the meeting—took the floor and spoke for longer than the two minutes
allotted to each speaker. Flynn’s supporters, a vocal minority consisting of
parents and staff that filled the last three rows of the auditorium, started
shouting in protest. Brown’s husband stood up. “This is my wife, she can talk
as long as she wants,” he shouted. The Flynn supporters shouted back. The
meeting was a visible sign of a bitter divide.
Problems
at the school had surfaced about a week earlier. The Parent’s Association, in
fact, ostensibly organized the meeting to discuss the incident that had set
things off. The Association’s treasurer, Vincent Nemorin, says that a faculty
member refused his second-grade son access to the bathroom back in February.
When Nemorin arrived at the school at the end of the day, he says, he found
that his son had soiled himself and had never been cleaned up. Then, on the
morning of February 24, he approached the school to confront the faculty
member. He ended up in handcuffs, sitting on the sidewalk by a police van in
front of the school. With, he says, a slight concussion.
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Mulgrew visits PS 193 Gil Hodges School, Feb. 2, 2010
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But at the
heart of the conflict is a difference of opinion over the performance of PS
193’s principal, Tami Flynn. To her detractors, the Nemorin incident is
indicative of Flynn’s hostile leadership, which they say is based on
retaliation, personal vendettas, and a closed-door policy that shuts parents
out of the school. To her supporters, however, Nemorin’s incident was an
unfortunate exception to Flynn’s otherwise friendly and open record as
principal. The real bullies, they say, are the members of the Parent’s
Association.
The
conflict has only grown more divisive as time has passed, providing an example
of how disagreements and mistrust in a school community can lead to
something more damaging.
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| Principal Flynn, second from right, with the 70th precinct |
Some
parents complain that, after Flynn became principal, programming diminished at
PS 193. The music program dissolved and there were fewer performances and
concerts to bring families into the building. The Gifted and Talented program,
a citywide program for advanced students, was hit the hardest. In the 2014-2015
school year, French classes were cut from the program, upsetting many parents.
“One of the reasons we chose PS 193 was simply because they had the French
curriculum,” Nemorin said.
Nemorin
says he led the charge to restore the French program. He organized a group of
parents, and together, they voiced their concerns at school leadership
meetings. The French program was restored in part, meeting once a week instead
of the usual twice a week. But Nemorin believes that his leadership made an
enemy out of Flynn. “They were asking valid questions,” Nemorin said of his
team. “And for that, I was blamed, and I was seen as an agitator.”
This past
school year, Nemorin was elected to be the treasurer of the Parent’s
Association. At the same time, Nemorin’s son began having numerous
bathroom-related incidents. “The bathroom issue did not begin until this year
and that was because I had become the treasurer of the Parents Association,” he
said. He said that before his arrest, he had received special accommodations
for his child to use the bathroom without restriction from superintendent Julia
Bove. A list of parent concerns about Flynn distributed by the Association says
that other children have also been denied bathroom usage.
Two videos
surfaced after Nemorin’s arrest. One, taken by Nemorin, shows his confrontation
with the faculty member. “You make sure you never impede his path again,”
Nemorin warns the faculty member. As Nemorin walks away, a woman who he
identifies as Flynn tries to stop him. “Let’s have a conversation,” she says.
“Go back to New Jersey,” Nemorin responds, continuing to walk away.
Nemorin
claims that he then left to go to work. Later, he says he received a phone
call. “I was told, ‘there is an emergency concerning your child at the
school, please come back to the school,’” Nemorin said. When he returned, he
says, police officers were waiting for him. In a second video, taken by a
witness, Nemorin stands calmly as the officers handcuff him. As he approaches
the police van, he appears to slip, and begins screaming, “my head!”
One officer in the video responds
that he didn’t see Nemorin hit his head. Nemorin said the injury wasn’t
serious, but that a CAT scan revealed a minor concussion. “The principal,
who’s been criticized recently over her conduct, her policies, her attitudes—I
think that she might have overresponded, overreacted, to a legitimate claim from
a parent,” said Stephen Flanhaft, Nemorin’s attorney.
Brown and
other Association members say that at a February 25 meeting Flynn admitted to
calling the police to deal with Nemorin. But parents who were at the meeting
say that she has contradicted herself, and it remains unclear as to who called
the police—or whether doing so was proper protocol. Brown and other Association
leaders met with the District 22 superintendent, Julia Bove, on March 8. Brown
said their policy questions were not answered. “What are the protocols in place
for when a police officer is notified?” she asked. “I must have asked this five
times and never got an answer.” Flynn was not available for multiple requests
for comment by phone. A receptionist for Julia Bove said that there was no
information being released to the press. A spokesperson for the Department of
Education did not answer specific questions on policing protocol and referred
only to the circumstances involving Nemorin. “We take this allegation
seriously, and are investigating the matter,” the spokesperson said.
Police
officers have been a common presence in schools since the Giuliani
administration, which dissolved school security into the police department,
according to Eric Nadelstern, a professor of educational leadership at Columbia
University’s Teacher’s College. However, it is unusual for a school to call the
police on a parent. “If a school staff member feels that their safety is in
jeopardy, generally they notify a supervisor, and the supervisor notifies a school
safety agent,” Nadelstern said. This agent decides if police will get involved.
The
greater concern for the school, however, is the aftermath. “You would hope that
what happens in this circumstance is that the principal in a PA meeting
explains the circumstance,” Nadelstern said. “If that doesn’t happen, that’s
the principal’s fault.” And according to Brown, this hasn’t happened. “She was
told that she could not make a statement or a comment on the matter,” Brown
said in a text message.
Brown
claims that as many as two other parents have also had police officers called
on them. NY City Lens could not confirm these cases.
However, Georgina Doody, a grandmother of a PS 193 student, claims she and
three other parents were recently escorted out of the building by 15 police
officers. Doody and the others tried to attend the February 25 meeting where
Flynn allegedly took responsibility for calling the police. They said they had
heard that the meeting was open to the public, but upon arriving, were denied
entry, and the officers came up to escort them out. “It was kind of
intimidating,” Doody recalls.
Stacia
Gregorio was outside the school when the police arrived. She took a video,
dated on February 25, that shows at least 14 officers entering the building,
and provided that video to NY City Lens.
“Parents are afraid to speak up
because they know she is going to retaliate,” Brown said.
Flynn’s
supporters agree that the climate at PS 193 has become more hostile. However,
they blame the Parents Association.
Dorian
Rodriguez, a parent at PS 193 and a supporter of Flynn’s, dismisses the notion
that Flynn is unwelcoming or retaliatory. Rodriguez says that she has had
numerous incidents with her child that have led to heated discussions, but that
they never end poorly. Once, she said, her son was being bullied before picture
day and ended up with a bump in his head. She says she approached the school
angrily but tried to carry herself professionally and ultimately resolved the
issue. “I’m upset, plain and simple,” Rodriguez said. “I go to Miss Flynn, her
door was open.” Rodriguez believes that Nemorin’s advance was aggressive, and
the fact that he chose to record it shows that the confrontation was
premeditated.
Rodriguez
also thinks the Parents Association is motivated by personal agendas. “I know
Vinny pretty well. Him and Miss Flynn have a history,” she said. “I believe he
used his son as a pawn to get to Miss Flynn.”
She added
that many parents who support Flynn had never heard of any other complaints
about the school before Nemorin’s arrest. “When one of their own members
becomes arrested, all of a sudden all of these bad things about the school are
coming out,” she said.
Other
parents say they believe that the principal has a positive influence on the
school. Alexis Regnier, a pro-Flynn parent, cites the fact that Flynn stands
outside to greet the children every morning. “Rain, sleet, snow, shine, she is
out there,” Regnier said. Regnier recalls how her child came late to last
year’s annual Halloween parade, where the children are taken down the streets
surrounding the school to show off their costumes to the neighborhood. Though
the parade had ended, Flynn stayed out to walk Regnier’s child around herself.
“This is what leadership is. Leadership is actually joining the line,” Regnier
said.
Rodriguez
and Regnier believe that the Association’s reaction to Nemorin’s arrest has
been misguided and distracting. After Nemorin’s arrest, the Association
announced on its Facebook page that it would rally outside the school every day
until Nemorin’s first court appearance on March 17, and for the most part, they
kept their word. “It’s one thing to voice your opinion and say, ‘I want to get
rid of Tami Flynn,’” Rodriguez said. “It’s another thing to tear down the
school.” Regnier pointed out that the bulk of the rallies took place during
“Literacy Week” at the school, where parents volunteer to go read to the kids.
“They were outside protesting instead of being upstairs in the library reading
to the kids,” she said. “They say it is for the children, but what is this
proof?”
Both sides
believe that the hostile environment is hurting the children, but disagree over
who is at fault. “They’re terrified at this point,” Brown said of her own
children, citing a fear of police presence. “Teachers have contacted me
anonymously and are terrified.” Rodriguez says that her son used to walk
quickly to school, excited to start his day, but that seeing the Association’s
rallies have made him tense. “He walks a little bit slower,” she said. “It just
wasn’t like that before, because there’s such a separation between the
parents.”
Carolyn
Riehl, an associate professor of Sociology and Education Policy at Columbia’s
Teacher College, said that situations like this, where potential litigation is
involved, hurt trust in a school because superiors often silence school
officials. “You’re no longer free to just say anything, including the truth,”
she said. “Unfortunately, it’s just these kinds of situations where
communication is so important and might help to diffuse the situation.” She
added that research shows that trust in schools is important to create
productive learning environments. “It’s much easier to break trust than to
build trust,” she said.
Councilman
Jumaane Williams, who was at the town hall meeting on March 1, must have
understood those stakes. After Brown’s husband stood up to defend her, Williams
tried to restore the peace, asking the children in attendance to stand up. “We
love you,” he told them. The crowd nodded in agreement. But it didn’t last. An
anti-Flynn parent made a comment about the pro-Flynn faculty members in
attendance, and several stormed out of the room. The meeting ended with nothing
resolved.
